From Campus to Campus

From Campus to Campus

As the deadline for many early college and university applications draw near, there’s one question that’s bouncing around in the minds of graduates and grade 11 students alike, “Where am I going to go after I finish high school?”. The question’s not an easy one, and any restrictions for the question may vary depending on the person’s situation. But as a grade 11 student myself, and having done several campus tours, I have found different variables that remain the same that each student should look for in a university. Whether you’re doing a bachelor’s of science, art, music, medicine, or anything else, this may be a helpful guideline on how to find the perfect university for you.

Step 1: Research

If you’re picky, like myself, you may want to go to school that has an excellent course in your field of interest, or may even be known for it. A good place to start is to google the top 10 best schools with that program in your country, state, or province. Personally this helped me narrow down my list, and opened my eyes to what I wanted in a school. If you don’t know what course you want to go in, or if you simply are not sure if that school is for you, don’t panic. You can also look up local universities or colleges and see if that sparks any interest. Perhaps the best thing you can do if you’re completely unsure of what, or where you want to go or do, is to take a campus tour. Even if you don’t end up going there, or completely hated the tour, this gives you an idea of what you want and don’t want in a school. Best case scenario you fall in love with the college and get to see the campus, and city around it, in person!

Step 2: Common Interests

When choosing your school, it’s extremely important to keep in mind that this is the place you’re going to be living in or at least spending most of your time at, for at least a year. This place needs to be somewhere that you can feel safe in, but also somewhere that’s cosy. At this stage you should be looking into things like how nice the dorms are, or if they have any clubs that match your hobbies. You should also keep in mind, the environment of different schools in different cities. There’s a huge difference if you’re from a small town, like myself, with a school of 300 students in the middle school and high school combined, and then jump into a big city university with over 20 000 students. I’m not saying that adapting between environments is impossible, but it’s something that can be difficult for people. See if the school has resources that help make the transition easier; talk to some people who have been to that school, or an academic advisor at the school. You may find that the change is doable, or maybe you want to stick to a smaller school. Both of these options are perfectly fine, and it’s actually quite common to find a bigger school partnered with a smaller one, that way you get the best of both worlds!

Step 3: Resources

As I mentioned before, the school that you choose has to be somewhere that you feel safe. This is where checking to see if they have the right resources for you comes in. The very first thing you should check is the campus security. In my opinion every school should have strong campus security, and so far all the campuses I have toured do have one. One thing that I do personally look for, security wise in a school, is the walking buddy system. It’s this thing where they have a group of students that, when called or messaged, will come to you and walk you to your dorm or apartment within a certain distance. This makes sure that every student is safe, and leaves them at less of a risk. Another thing to keep in mind, is different health facilities. Do they have a clinic either on campus or near by? Do they offer health and dental insurance? Do they have a counsellor or mental health advisor? Is the school considered a safe space? Depending on your needs these are extremely important questions to ask, or to research.

Step 4: Job Opportunities, Internships, and Co-op

There’s no denying that secondary education is expensive. But there is a way to avoid being jobless while being in school. A lot of schools have on-campus jobs that vary from campus security, to bookstore cashier, some even offer payment for you to take extra notes in certain classes so that those who weren’t that day can still know what they missed. It’s just a little thing that can make college life a little easier. Of course, there’s also opportunities like internships and co-ops. These things don’t usually become available until third, fourth, and rarely second, year, so you don’t need to worry too much. Still, you may choose to see how many they have available, or if there’s a guaranteed one in your programme.

So there you have it! Follow these four steps and you may find making a decision for your perfect university or college a little easier. Just be sure to remember, you could have all these traits in your secondary education, but if you’re not doing something you love, you’ll never be truly happy there. These are general guidelines, applicable for everyone, but your university experience is personal.

Make it yours.  

The Growth of a Rose

The Growth of a Rose

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring” ~ Marilyn Monroe

Beauty is something that surrounds us everyday, and it’s nearly impossible to avoid! It’s in our bodies, in our souls, and everywhere throughout the world around us. When it comes to beauty standards for our bodies, today’s society tends to have a strict set of rules that you must follow, or else you won’t fit the mold. Women and men, alike, are beginning to buckle under the stress of the countless stereotypes we have created for their genders, and more and more dangers are arising from this. When did beauty become something physical? And beyond that, when did it become the image of ribs poking through skin and gaps between thighs? Is it possible our modern day world has forgotten what true beauty is, and chooses to focus on the physical aspects of it, but ignores any other form of it? In a world that’s constantly changing it’s important to remember where we began, and in the world of beauty, I believe maybe that’s where we should start.

Like with most things, we begin our journey in Ancient Egypt. Egypt actually didn’t treat women all that badly, and encouraged their independance and beauty. In this era women were seen as more desirable if they were slender, had narrow shoulders, a high waist, and a Symmetrical face. These standards, however, seem to do a complete 180 degree turn in Ancient Greece, where women were expected to be plump, and full bodied. In fact, it was actually the men who were held against ‘perfect body’ standards rather than the women. If we follow these trends to the modern day world, you’ll find that they basically change from plump to skinny every few hundred or so years. Think about it.

During the Victorian era, ladies were to be ‘desirably plump’, but still maintain a cinched waist, most achieved this with corsets, but in the Roaring Twenties, we have nearly the complete opposite! The 1920’s was a time of flat chests, boyish figures, and short hair. Fast forward another 10-20 years and you have the Hollywood era, where curvy women such as Marilyn Monroe were place under the spotlight for their hourglass figure, large breasts, and the perfect amount of thickness.

I’m afraid that was the last era to support thicker women, as the following commanded, sickly thin stomachs, but toned hips and butt. In the 1980’s, during a time the beauty world calls the ‘supermodel era’, women strived for that thin, athletic body. This caused an upswing in anorexia, and obsessions with dieting and exercise. It pains me to say that today we are not much better. Today’s society’s ideal body for a woman is flat stomached, ‘healthily’ skinny, and large breasted, with a thigh gap. These standards are nearly impossible to match, and a lot of women have resorted to either anorexia or plastic surgery to meet these views.

It’s a horrible thing indeed. If we look back at what we have perceived as beautiful in the past, you’ll find nearly every single body type. It shows us that you are beautiful, no matter your size, shape or colour; that everyone has their own perception of what is physically beautiful. It’s almost bizarre to think that these standards, that bounce back and forth, have been the cause of millions of people’s insecurities throughout the decades, and have caused things such as anorexia, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, and in worst case scenarios even suicidal tendencies to happen. Unfortunately these kind of things happen when we focus on what is physically gorgeous about a person, and completely ignore who they are as a person and the things that they have done.

Following that note, as stated before, beauty is not restricted to just the physical aspects of an object. For example, when we think of seasons we don’t think that they’re beautiful because of how they look; we also take in the enjoyments that each season gives us. If we can do this with seasons and many other objects, why can’t we do it with ourselves and the people around us?

I have done research on various websites, all asking the same question. “What are the different types of beauty?” I am ashamed to say that all that appeared was, yet again, the physical traits of a person. It pains me to know that society has fallen so low that we have apparently forgotten that life is more than just looks, but about the experiences you have and the people you meet. Kahlil Gibran once said “Beauty is not in the face; beauty is in a light in the heart.”, and I have to say that I cannot agree with her more. There are many thing that make a person beautiful beyond their body.

The first being one’s actions, and how they look at the world. Look at different icons such as Martin Luther King Jr, J.K. Rowling, Marilyn Monroe, and stars like Beyonce, P!nk, and Emma Watson, every single one of these people all have one thing in common; they stand up for what they believe in, and try to make the world a better place. For M.L. King Jr. it was segregation and African American rights, for J.K. Rowling it’s kids in foster system and orphanages (Don’t believe me? Look up the Lumos Charity Foundation), for Marilyn Monroe it was simply helping anyone she possibly could with what she had. As for the lovely Beyonce, P!nk, and Emma Watson they’re all feminists and are not afraid to speak their mind on women’s rights. These people are beautiful, not because of their fame, but because they show compassion, and empathy. They’re fierce, strong, and passionate. Sadly, a lot of people look over the wonderful things that these people, and so many others have done, just because of their appearance, or for one mistake, or because they think that all they are is a celebrity, and not a human being. When in reality, these people are just ordinary, people doing spectacular things.

The second thing is the way we treat people. There’s a quote that says “How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you.” It means that the way we speak to and treat other people really unveils who you are as a person. If you’re mean, and cruel to a person repeatedly this could mean two or three things: a) You’re just genuinely a terrible person, who doesn’t like the world for some reason. b) Something is going on in your life, and this is how you’ve chosen to cope. or  c) You’re jealous of the person you are picking on. But, if you are that person who is getting picked on, and yet you still show compassion, and try to see the best in the person bullying you, that makes you a truly spectacular, and gorgeous human being. It’s the type of beauty that we sometimes see in the innocence of infancy before the reality has had a chance to dump itself all over children’s dreams. This form of beauty is truly pure and innocent. Personally, this is my favourite kind, and it’s the one that I strive to achieve the most.

These kinds of beauty are things that you can find in day to day life. For all you know, up to now, I could’ve just been spewing random nonsense, but our world really is beginning to see beauty for what it truly is, the heart. I, for one, witness it everyday. I have participated in 4 different pageants and am proud to say that they do not follow their stereotype what so ever; in fact pageants aren’t even titled ‘beauty pageants’ anymore as they focus on things beyond looks. In each of these pageants that I have entered, the contests are judged not based on our appearance, or body size, but on our personalities during our interview, our grace on stage, the authenticity of our nature. Judges now focus on each contestant individually for who they are. The effect that this is having is amazing! Girl’s of all body sizes are now joining pageants and are being filled with a new sense of confidence and self-love. I know because I am one of those girls. Before I started the whole pageant thing, my self-esteem was lower than the bottom of the ocean, and I was constantly aware of how I looked and what other people may be thinking of me. Now, even though I still have a hard time seeing it sometimes, I know that it doesn’t matter what my weight is or what other people think about how I look. All that matters is that I am comfortable with who I am, and that I try and see the good in everyone that I meet.

Shortly after my first pageant, I wrote a poem titled ‘Who I Am’, in it I talked about how it can feel that we are a certain emotion sometimes, but in the end it’s not our past that controls us, or anyone else. We are our own person. I end the poem by saying this:  

“Because all though I'm scared to confess this,

And all though it fills me with rage every time I look back at my past,

And fills me with sadness when I look at some of the stuff that's happened;

It's part of who I am.

I've allowed myself to drown in fear.

I've exploded, and demolished entire friendships with my anger.

I've hidden myself in sadness.

Because that was me.

But I've also laughed at memories of my childhood.

I've shrieked and howled in happiness as I've adventured outside of my home,

I've cried tears of joy as I've told my friends my story, and have them support me.

Because throughout all of this, I've really learned one thing.

Maybe I wear weird clothes, and talk to myself sometimes.

Maybe I obsess over strange things and talk non-stop about said things.

Maybe I'd rather spend my time in a library reading, than sit at a table of strangers,

Maybe I dream wild things, and rebel against others to prove myself right.

Maybe I am different.

But that's okay.

Because different is beautiful.

It's unique, creative, fantastic, mystical, enchanting and simply, fascinating.

Different is being able to say, "Yah, I did that." And not give a damn what others think.

Because you are you.

You may not be a model, or a pop star, or an athlete, or smart.

But you are special, and that's gorgeous.

So yeah, I am different.

And that's what makes me proud of who I am.”

In other words, beauty is more than what we look like. It’s something that has changed, and will continue to change, as time goes on. It something that reflects who we are as a person, and mirrors our personalities in the everything we do. It’s more than just models walking down a runway, and makeup, and fancy dresses. At the end of the day beauty is really only one thing.

It’s who you are.